Day-to-day challenges and life events often cause us to lose the inner peace that we are born with. The ability to be content with the moment exactly how it is without wanting more. A daily meditation practice will allow you to reconnect to that feeling and regain some balance in life.
Meditation allows you to let go of negative and distracting thoughts becoming calmer, happier and more focused.
You can expect improved sleep, enhanced relationships, more clarity, greater physical health and a renewed enthusiasm for life.
So why do you need a meditation coach?
In all honesty you don’t need a coach. There are plenty of books on the market and web based articles. However it is called meditation practice for a reason. It takes time, patience and lots of encouragement and guidance. It can be lonely and confusing and many people give up within the first 6 weeks of starting. I had dipped in and out of meditation for many years until an accident made me find a mentor and begin a practice in ernest and it completely changed my relationship with myself.
How do you know which teacher is right for you?
Unfortunately meditation teaching is not currently regulated and many teachers around have had little or no experience or training. That doesn’t necessarily make them bad at what they do, but a good starting point if you are thinking of investing your future peace with a coach, is to look at their meditation background. Why they meditate, who they learnt with, what they offer. Experience isn’t everything however, you want someone that you feel comfortable with. This person will be your cheerleader for as long as you need them on your journey. Select your travelling companion wisely.
I now guide others through their meditation journey enabling them ultimately to live in the present moment as their true authentic selves.
Take a look around. Read my story and check out the workshops, and Mindfulness and Mind Calm (also available via Skype) I teach. I am happy to answer any questions if you want to contact me.
Although my workshops and therapies are open to all, I specialise in treating Chronic Pain, Anxiety and Depression.
For an appointment or further information please contact me.
Meditation – why bother?
“Feelings come and go like clouds in a windy sky. Conscious breathing is my anchor.” Thich Nhat Hanh
It is common to use many of our activities as temporary distraction techniques, trying to focus on something, anything, to keep our thoughts at bay. This works to an extent but awareness always creeps in when we least expect or want it. That stomach churning feeling that randomly occurs halfway through our favourite tv programme, when we start thinking about what we have to do the next day, or out enjoying time with friends when we inexplicably start worrying about the bills. That nagging, gnawing feeling that something’s missing, just won’t go away, no matter how much we try to feed it with material possessions or divert our attention away from it.
We all experience life’s highs and lows and it is natural to want to chase the highs. We may embark on a new relationship, change job and for a while feel all is well. We either relax and enjoy that feeling or experience an undercurrent of “this won’t last”, “I don’t deserve this”. Then when the temporary feeling of euphoria does gradually fade away becoming a memory, what next?
We can find ourselves back on the periphery of happiness waiting until things are fixed, changed or improved to get better again. We get caught in the cycle of “when ………. happens I will be happy”. Always waiting, life becomes a perpetual struggle.
We are not born with these feelings of dissatisfaction. They build up bit by bit gradually consuming us and disconnecting us from our conscious awareness, the inner peace that’s always present that we have forgotten we have. Rumi said “we wander from room to room searching for the diamond necklace that is already around your neck”. Call off the search; we are what we seek.
Over time we have constructed a set of conditioned responses we call upon in every situation. When an event happens we label good we fruitlessly try to hang on to that feeling. When a situation we deem bad arises we resist and try to push it away causing us untold stress. We impossibly only want the good. The truth is we are human beings not human doings and we have gotten so busy doing that many of us forget to just Be.
Life is subject to flux. It’s beautifully wild, uncontrollable and ever changing. Recognising that the only thing we can realistically control in the long term is where we focus our attention is the first step on the peace path.
Through a regular meditation practice it is possible to change your relationship with your mind, dispelling the negativity enabling you to reconnect to the ever loving, still, silent space within.
So why bother? Well for me it has really cleansed my thought process. Any fear, jealousy and anxiety has been replaced by a sustainable feeling of completeness. I feel an inner serenity that’s always with me. Ultimately the only way you can find out is by giving it a go yourself.
To attend a meditation workshop or receive one to one coaching and support (also available via Skype) contact me.
What meditation isn’t
Meditation is purely a relaxation technique
I hear “but there are other things I do that relax me, I don’t need to meditate” a lot. It’s certainly true that relaxation is a byproduct of a regular meditation practice but it’s so much more. You can consciously choose to live being perfectly present and fully experiencing life right now, freeing yourself of the limiting negative mental chatter that can sometimes feel relentless. We can do this through reconnecting with the still, silent space inside of us, rather than seeking temporary periods of true happiness through external measures.
Meditation is a religious practice
You don’t need to shave your head, join a monastery or give away all your money. You are making a commitment to love and honor the real you by reconnecting with the peace and love that resides inside that has been slowly consumed through years of modern day living.
Meditation makes you an emotionless robot
Meditation does not remove emotions but it makes you more attuned to emotional changes. I used to worry all the time, believing the commentator in my head to be very true, which caused me lots of energy and stress. (“Wow, could that really happen – that would be terrible”). Lots of the emotions I had were very fear based surrounding the future. Meditation has increased my clarity allowing me to think more logically rather than emotionally. Living in the present moment helped me to disengage from my unhealthy emotional states but I still feel things very deeply.
Meditation is too hard
It’s a complete alien concept to many to just sit and be. No distractions, no entertainment, no planning the future. Meditation is not hard but it is helpful to have someone guide you when you start practicing.
Meditation takes years to work
It is called meditation practice for a reason. It takes time to cultivate the habit of directing our attention inward. It’s not an instant fix but changes will be gentle and consistent. Gradually you will break free from the cycle of thinking too much and you will reconnect to your natural state of peace and love. The longer you put off starting your practice the longer you will remain in disharmony.
Meditation takes too much time
Spare time is a luxury that many of us do not have in excess of with the demands of modern day living, but everyone can create a few minutes in their day (I have periods where I switch my smartphone off so I can’t keep checking it to free up time). People who say they don’t have the time to meditate are usually the ones that really need to. Try just 10 minutes a day for 6 weeks, it’s enough to see a difference.
To meditate you need to stop having thoughts
I have been meditating for years, and my mentors even longer, and I honestly don’t know of anyone who doesn’t have any thoughts. We are human beings with human nervous systems and will probably remain having thoughts for the rest of our lives. Meditation offers you the freedom to chose which thoughts you engage with.
Meditation is an escape from reality
Personally my reality pre meditation was full of fear and panic and generally full of angst. I am now free from remorsefully thinking about the past or anxiously trying to foresee the future. You can’t get much more real than the present moment.
Meditation doesn’t work for everyone
There are many types of meditation all with the ultimate aim of enabling you to be present. There is something for everyone. I believe the majority of people give up as they feel they are ‘bad’ at it due to the amount of thoughts they have when they try. Never judge a meditation on the time you spend meditating but rather on the after effects. i.e. do you sleep better, have improved clarity, less worry etc.?
Meditation is selfish
I struggled initially with taking time out of my day to meditate that could have been spent with my children or a million other things. It felt extremely self indulgent and uncomfortable. However my practice has made me calmer, happier and generally a lot nicer to be around. Those surrounding you will reap the benefits almost as much as you do.
Meditation is the answer to all
Life is subject to flux and we will all have times where our circumstances become more difficult. Unfortunately meditation does not guarantee you a problem free existence. What it does do though is give you the tools you need to navigate your way through with a calmness and clarity and a knowing that this too shall pass.
To attend a meditation workshop or receive one-to-one coaching and support (also available via Skype) contact me.
"You wander from room to room searching for the diamond necklace that is already around your neck". Rumi
Ever wish you could stop your mind from working overtime?
There are many types of meditation available but the one that really works for me is Mind Calm, devised by Sandy Newbigging, to such an extent I became a teacher of this method.
Rather than promising you peace of mind it helps you achieve peace with mind. Yes that's right, you don't need to try to stop your thoughts, not even during the time you spend meditating.
Instead Mind Calm teaches you ways to be at peace with whatever you are thinking or feeling at any given moment in time. A really practical form of meditation you can use anytime, anywhere; even with your eyes open.
If you have ever felt overwhelmed, unfulfilled and "there must be more to life than this" why not try a new strategy? Mind Calm can help you worry less, sleep better, improve relationships, live fully in the present moment and feel more calm, confident and content.
After being taught Mind Calm (either in a group, a one to one session or over Skype) you will have a good understanding of how your mind works, what impact your thoughts have on your physical health and emotional state and practical tools to integrate into your daily life to reconnect you to peace, love and happiness.
Ready to become a consciousness explorer? Close your eyes and wake up.